Caring about what other people think will never bring you happiness. How many of your thoughts are devoted to the opinion of others? That heavy burden that weighs down on you day in and day out, starts from the opinions of other people. Why is it that so much of our happiness is wrapped up in the opinions of others? One insult has the ability to send you to the deepest depths of misery and self-loathing. I believe the secret to happiness is to live your life without being attached to the approval of others.
As I get older, I have learned that there are certain ways to live your life that bring happiness and other ways that just bring stress. Life is about finding what makes you content, and removing those things that make you upset. Someone told me, “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” I used to believe, that what others think of me is the truth. For years I struggled with it.
According to “The Secret to Happiness is 10 Specific Behaviors” by Benjamin Hardy, “We’ll always be stuck comparing ourselves and competing with other people.” (page 2). This quotation shows how most people care what others think of them. By doing so, people are being distracted from living their life to the fullest and from finding happiness.
Wearing designer clothing is sort of like a status symbol. A lot of kids for instance, feel they fit in better at school when they are wearing the right brand and clothing. As Benjamin Hardy noted, “How could you possibly find happiness when you relentlessly want more and never find properly appreciate what you have?” (page 4). What Hardy is asking here, is how can we focus on our happiness when we constantly worry about what others think. People mainly focus on what they do not have.
We all have one life, so why would you spend it worrying about other people’s opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever you want to be. You probably won’t even see them in a year from now. Live your life like it’s just you, and you will finally be free to be yourself.
We all have a different perception on how life should be lived and how people should act, and instead of wasting your time thinking about what other people think and say about you, why not spend that time improving and growing yourself.
An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you.