What even is Emotional Intelligence? Well your about to find out! I will be telling you what emotional intelligence is, one of your emotional skills (and explaining what it means), and explaining how an awareness of your emotional skills makes you a better citizen. The first main point that I will be going over is what the definition of Emotional Intelligence even is. According to psychology today, Emotional Intelligence is “The ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills: emotional awareness; the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.” So let’s break this definition down.
What the definition means by saying “The ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others”, is that you can successfully identify your emotional state and that of others. Also, it is saying that you can handle/manage your emotions. The other information given in this definition is “the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving”.
What this sentence is saying is that you have the ability to control how you are feeling and that you can apply these feelings in a real-life situation. This definition is very important for us to understand the other two main topics of this essay. The next topic about Emotional Intelligence that I will be talking about is what one of your emotional skills are, and explaining what it means.
But instead of just giving one emotional skill and explaining, I will be giving two. The first one I will talk about is being “Honesty”. This is a broader version of admitting mistakes. Honesty is often confused with truth, which is about facts and evidence. But honesty is about emotion, saying what is in our hearts and minds in the moment, which can certainly change over time, and should not be confused with dishonesty or lying. Being honest can be extremely difficult because it requires first that we know what we feel and think, and then that we have the courage to state it. For some, the knowledge itself is an obstacle; for others, it is fear of confrontation and walking on eggshells.
Honesty ties in very much with Emotional Intelligence because you have to be in a very strong mental/emotional state, to be honest. The next emotional skill is to “tolerate confrontation and the strong emotions of others”. Even though it’s good for us to self-regulate, many of those around us can’t.
Tolerating others’ strong emotions is about our own self-regulation — not getting angry in return, not getting overwhelmed — but also not allowing ourselves to be abused. But the bigger issue here is that if we can’t tolerate confrontation and strong emotions, it’s easy to learn to blanket-avoid them, and then we can’t step up and say what we need and want. Not only do we then have trouble getting these needs met, but others never really get to know us at a more intimate level, and we spend much of our time walking on eggshells, trying to make others happy as a way of managing our anxiety. Our own lives become stunted. The skill is calming our own anxiety and mentally realizing that others’ reactions and problems are not our own. These two skills that everyone should possess, are important skills that we need to maintain our Emotional Intelligence.
The last topic is how awareness of your emotional skills makes you a better citizen. I left this one last because I believe that it is a very good question. Being aware of one’s emotional skills makes you a better citizen because then you have the knowledge to help others and understand what is needed to have a common good. When you are aware of your emotional skills, you have stronger Social Skills and you can better communicate with your community.
According to blog-bonus, Advanced social skills are priceless assets to have at your disposal as a leader. Being a good leader makes you a better Citizen, now a day’s we need a person to take charge and show these emotional skills to make this world better. To be a good citizen anywhere you have to be a good person. That means showing respect, having a good attitude or just helping out.
Having good emotional skills and knowing what they are, help you to become a better citizen because overall it makes you a better person. In conclusion, Emotional Intelligence is something that everybody possesses and that is greatly needed to become a better citizen. Not only to become a better citizen but also to be fully known about yourself and other’s emotional needs. Honesty is an important part of Emotional Intelligence because when telling the truth you are showing your emotions and how they make you feel in a new outlet. Being aware of your emotional skills makes you a better citizen because you understand the needs of others, as well as yourself.