With the advancement of technology, we have seen improvements throughout the years in our quality of life and how we navigate and interact with the world around us. Now with technology, we no longer have to pay postage to send out birthday cards because with a simple e-card, text, or email, it’s covered. Online dating has become much easier and more accessible for people navigating the dating world and very easily, many people are using Google to get see if their date is a do or don’t. In a recent article on improving academic decision-making through course evaluation technology, Adam Marks, Maytha AL-Ali, Munir Majdalawieh, Anoud Bani-Hani (2017), found that the use of technology in the field of education, has helped higher education institutions improve academic assessment, teaching and learning, and academic administration decision making.
With all the positive impacts technology advancement has had on many areas of life, we cannot forget how technology has improved our dating lives and sexual experiences, especially for women. Let’s take for example smart phones! Smarts phones have become extremely popular within the last 7 years. In fact, if there’s something that the vast majority of Americans have in common, it’s our love of smart phones.
According to a new Pew Research Center report on technology device ownership (2015), 68 percent of adults in the U.S. own a smart phone, representing an increase of almost 100 percent since 2011. The study found that women made for a larger percentage of users. However, have these women ever considered how these smart phones have positively improved their personal, sexual and intimate lives? For the most part, many female users have not. For many women, one of the most interesting and distinctly X rated connection exists between their smart phones and themselves. Not to mention, how these smart phones have improved the sexual experiences for many woman.
We also cannot ignore the impact these smart phones devices have had on the intimate lives of women as well. For many women, the interest in maneuvering through and penetrating the many hidden secrets of technology has turned into technology maneuvering and penetrating them. In a recent article published in the Huffington Post, Alexis Kleinman asserts that 1 out of 10 Americans use their smart phones during sex and about 2 out of 10 young adults use their smart phones during sex. The sexualization of mobile devices does not come as a surprise for most women. In fact, most women have porn on their phone right now, or at least the traces of salacious sexting. Many of the mirror driven nude selfies which allows women to celebrate their body not just as women but also as sexual beings , in these images, the phone is often the first thing people see.
The hardware that women are suing to masturbate has an imprinting. This imprinting is intensely personal. Ironically, many women are not even aware of the soft and slippery pull that their devices have on their collective sexuality. The smart phone allows women like many men to use their device during those moments of extreme hormonal raging to gratify their sexual needs whether a man is present or not. In a 2011 study on whether sexualized woman or considered human being s by men, researchers found that many of the sexual pleasures men experience and enjoy women do as well (Vaes, Paladina and Puvia, 2011). So we see that the smart phones have created a sexual freedom for women just as it has for many men. Do women realize how intimate their smart phone devices are to them? Most women do not.
In using the word intimate it means intimate as in private, and intimate as in closely connected. Women and their smart phones are so closely connected that the mere thought of being without their smart phone device would be like suffering an amputation. For example, if a women’s phone was stolen, she would probably feel disrobed and vulnerable especially considering the personal content on most phones. In a 2016 article written by Michael Shelton on the Impact of Cell Phones on Romantic Relationships and how excessive monitoring of smart phones is evolving into a new relationship norm, he asserts that our iPhones and Androids shoot aggressively climbing digital vines that grow into our identities and even into our biological processes. These vines are always listening to us and thoughtfully chewing up our data. They provide instant and tangible feedback, not only to us, but to the rest of the world at large, whether we realize it or not.
Women are unconsciously inviting hardware devices into their most mysterious of mental processes like memory, sexuality, and communication. Women could not internalize these devices more unless they ate them or bio-hacked them into their bodies. What is even more startling is these devices are actually paying attention, and not just passively either.
Asserting that these smart phone devices are an extension of themselves much like their sexual body parts or prosthetics is not an exaggeration, it is a fact. Some would even argue that the relationship and connection women have created with their smart phone devices hurts them rather than helps their romantic lives. According to Monica Mandel, a sex and relationship expert, the relationship women and even men often develop with their phones are so powerful, that it can actually take away from the intimacy they should be experiencing with their partner. In her 2017 article on dating and relationships, Mandel suggest that women are using their phones like a drug and using it as an easy excuse to escape or avoid conversation. Mandel suggests that couples who are too glued to their screens instead of each other should set up very real boundaries.
Mandel suggest that in the intimate moments, if the woman or her partner reaches for their phone during sex, it should only be to watch some sexual adult entertainment together. Previously, we asserted that women just as men use their smart phone devices to engage in personal sexual acts so this may be a great solution for women and their partners to engage in the sexual and technological experience together. As we can see, there is a clear impact that technology; smart phones in particular, have had on women and their sexuality. Like all humans, women have sight, hearing, a sense of smell, and touch and then they also have their smart phones.
They attach to them via them existing senses, enhancing them and giving them a reach they could have never dreamed of having organically. The smart phone has increased the possibility for women to enjoy sexual experiences by not just visualizing but physically engaging in what they are viewing on their phone screen. The intimate relationship they have created with their smart phones can easily replace companionship though like drugs, the unhealthy addition to their smart phone devices can hinder other intimate relationships and experiences in their lives, just ask Monica Mandel! ReferencesKleinman, A.(2013). Nearly 20 Percent Of Young Adults Use Their Smartphones During Sex: Survey. Huffington Post Retrieved from: https://www.
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